THE HEALING ARTS | Voice Dialogue
Voice Dialogue refers both to the body of work of psychologists Dr. Hal Stone and Dr. Sidra Stone, which includes The Psychology of Selves, and to the technique the Stones developed that enables you to dialogue with your various inner selves.
We all have parts within us that are not in alignment with our goals for personal transformation. With her training in Voice Dialogue facilitation, Kelly helps clients discover and transform inner resistance and bring inner harmony to their lives. It is one of the most powerful tools to help clients transform the parts of their psyche, or inner self, and gain alignment with our goals, dreams and true purpose.
Examples of Elements in the Psyche Addressed through Voice Dialogue
The elements that Voice Dialogue addresses are relatable to everyone at one point or another. Sometimes, they can overwhelm us, pulling us off balance and off track from our goals. Here are a few of the more common elements of the psyche that we can work through with Voice Dialogue.
The Inner Critic
In the simplest terms, this element is the negative self-talk we just can’t resist. We all do it. We listen to the critical inner voice that is more judgemental and more demeaning than almost anyone else we encounter. Over time, we give in to counterproductive feelings of low self-esteem, self-doubt, inadequacy, worthlessness shame, guilt, and even depression. Over time, we start to believe our own inner critic, and it can become debilitating.
The Saboteur in our psyche operates on fear and blocks us from our successes. It lives in discomfort, nagging us like the pea under the princess’ mattress. If we allow it, it will crowd out the options that we could employ toward resolution and success. This element plays deeply on our emotions and thrives when we dive into survival mode. That’s when it kicks into overdrive and starts manufacturing fears that are unfounded and paralyzing.
By definition, procrastination means avoiding doing a task that we need to accomplish. It also means habitually putting something off even though we know that doing so will make matters worse, harder, embarrassing or costly. Like the Saboteur, this often leads to issues with stress, self-esteem, guilt and depression. As a common coping or defense mechanism, the Procrastinator tells us to avoid the emotion instead of focusing on the task, defaulting to counterproductive behaviors like avoidance, denial, mocking, blaming, distraction, and trivialization.
The Inner Child
The inner child is simply an individual’s childlike aspect. There are many positive aspects of this element, like wonder, play, and innocence. But it also often shows up in destructive, self-defeating behaviors. It can involve being or feeling needy, abandoned, irresponsible or dependent. Many of us fail to recognize or acknowledge the positive or challenging parts of our Inner Child, which can result from or in feeling deprived, rejected, and neglected. The Inner Child often holds onto old wounds and fears for dear life.
The Controller in us wants what it wants, and it is resourceful. It has a specific set of expectations, for example, “things will be hard” and can make easy things hard to match internal expectations. Without the benefit of flexibility and options, it finds problems in every solution and roadblocks for ideas and possibilities. On the plus side, the Controller helps make things happen – it can be a powerful motivator. Learning to harness the leadership qualities without holding on to the restrictive black-and-white mindset can be a real gift.
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A firm believer in self-improvement, Kelly holds several life-coaching, personal, and spiritual development certifications, including:
- Certified True Purpose Coach™
- Certified True Purpose Coach Group Leader™
- Certified Dream Coach™
- Certified Dream Coach Group Leader™
- Certified Facilitator, Women Writing for (a) Change®
- Training in Voice Dialogue
- Spiritual Director, trained at Wellstreams Spirituality Network, in Columbus, OH, and a member of Spiritual Directors International (SDI)
Coaching sessions can be conducted via phone or Skype. If you’re interested in learning more about working with Kelly, please email firstname.lastname@example.org or call 513.404.1820.